There is no doubt that grief is a painful experience but we need to understand that life is a temporary experience. This past Monday morning as I was driving to work around 7am I saw a lady crying by a cross on the roadside, she tried to put flowers next to the cross planted in the grass. I came to the conclusion that she lost a loved one in an accident on that particular high way. She looked helpless, angry and inconsolable. This just seemed like a counterproductive thing to be doing on a Monday morning. Words cannot express how painful it is to lose a loved one. I lost my mum at an early age and between 2014 and 2015 I lost about 4 close relatives including my dad. Grief could be excruciating; in fact, I still cry at random when I remember my dad.
Of recent about 5 people I know have lost a parent and it is agonizing to watch and listen to the amount of sadness surrounding them as they deal with their loss. When we lose a loved one, it is ok to cry, cry for as long as you want but don’t let the sorrow cripple you. Don’t let grief hinder you from living a productive life. Life continues after a loss, it has to.
Losing a loved one is a painful experience but we need to understand that life is a temporary experience, no matter how much we love life, we cannot live forever on earth. As a matter of fact, we all start inching towards death from the day we are born. As a Christian I find comfort in the fact that I will see my loved ones again (because they believed in Jesus) and at the end of the day this is all that matters. A famous singer once said “no matter how long we live on earth; we will live in heaven much longer.” It is okay to grief, grief is a part of life however productive life should continue and with Jesus we have eternal hope.
By Lola Fajemirokun